4 behaviors' to try if you're healing over past trauma

 who are you really?

There is this feeling of hopelessness when we've been traumatized, trauma doesnt stop to tell you "hey, can i come in", nahhhh it just bounds in like you've been living together forever. 

Regardless, you have to kick trauma back out your door as far away from your perimeter as possible because that is the only way to go on not just with life but living.

Here are four behaviors to try out if you've made up your mind to heal from those stuff that hurt you terribly leaving scars that only you know about;

• Forgive yourself; sometimes why we hurt when we've been hurt by someone else is because we feel like we allowed them, gave them the right access, became vulnerable enough for them to be able to hurt us. it produces such self hate as no other external source can cause. we must learn to forgive ourselves for making those mistakes, by learning from them, and choosing to go on living, go on loving.

• Express love; nature has a way of providing healing to those who are full of love, it helps those who choose to help, provides for those who provide, nature in itself when fully appreciated provides healing. don't lock up behind close doors, praying that trauma never shows up at your doorstep again, it might be difficult but its the small steps that matter, breath in the fresh air, plant flowers, visit friends and family.

• Give it time; the horrible fact is that wounds do not just disappear like poof! and its gone. the best thing is that they do disappear eventually, and then i  tend to think of the scars that remain as battle scars to show that we've fought a war and won 

• pray; i know not everyone is keen on this, but try talking to God about it. He listens, the results might not always come with the immediate effect we want, but it always does. so when you pray, belief and be expectant of the results :)

love and light,

Hekima.

have a  great time ahead!!!!